Dear mum in the corner,
I smiled at you as soon as I walked into that noisy soft play. You were speaking to someone but you didn't smile back. You just looked me up and down and turned away.
You don't like me...... without even speaking to me you think you know what type of person I am, you think you know my story. I don't know what type of person you are but I do know your story because I could hear you talking. I know that you live a different life to me. I know you are raising your children alone and I know that you live in a different area to me.
You probably saw the wedding ring on my finger. You probably noticed that I had a full face of makeup and nicely done hair that day. I was wearing heeled ankle boots that day.
But what you don't know is that I was really nervous about going to soft-play with both my boys that day. It was the first time I had taken my toddler and newborn out of the house together on my own. I got up especially early to put some makeup on and I did my hair properly for the first time in 6 weeks. My husband helped me out with the boys so that I could get ready on time. I switched my worn out flat boots for some heeled boots. The first time I had worn heels in over 9 months! I don't look perfectly well groomed everyday believe me!
What you don't know is that I have a huge amount of respect for you. I would love to know how you do it, I would love to know how you stop yourself from going crazy when you don't have a partner to support you? Your children listened to you when you gave them instructions, I would love to know how you got that to work too? My 2 year old never listens to me.
You look like your doing a great job......I don't always feel like I'm doing a great job.
As I've learnt since having children there are many "types" of mums. Breastfeeding mums, bottle feeding mums, stay at home mums, working mums, baby led weaning mums, Ella's Kitchen mums, NCT mums, older mums, younger mums, married mums, single mums. The list goes on. All these groups of mums "think" that they are so different from the rest when in fact we are ALL the same. We all have the same worries about our children and the same insecurities. We just have different methods of dealing with them. We all love our children more than anyone else in the world. Our children will happily play together being none the wiser about social background or parenting methods......why can't we? Why can't we spend 10 minutes talking at a soft play? I'm sure we have far more in common than either of us think. Being a mum can be really lonely sometimes.......you can never have too many friends. We all have the same job role and we are all just trying to do our best.
So mum to the mum in the corner, next time you see me smile back at me and say hello.....